NO. It depends on where you stand in suffering. Are you suffering enough? Are you light in suffering right now? So, if you are not suffering enough, you don't get what you want?
In a matter of lifetime, where do you want to find yourself? Where do you live with your resilience? This is some place where you find true connection. But that isn't the place, that is never supposed to be found, untill you die. Keep this with yourself, for every soul is sacred. And everybody is closely knit beyond thinking.